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"I don't have the time to be thinking about how you [others] feel - I don't have time." - Steve French

I find inspiration in any and everything, but my favorite source of inspiration will always be my family and friends. The people that know me, and me them.

Finding a topic to write about this week has been a challenge.

I wanted to focus on the festive season, fashion and styling but the week was honestly an emotional rollercoaster.

It started off with news of Virgil's passing, and though I wasn't a huge fan of his designs, he did a lot for his community - opened doors for many black people, touched lives and inspired so many.

My sister's book Perspectives was ranked #20 in the TOP 100 Revolutionary Ghanaian Writers of 2021! I am so proud of her! If you haven't got a chance to read it yet, it is available here!

I asked my brother to help me with a topic and he wanted me to talk about him, and how he is (in his words) "the ying to my yang," "the bofrot to my Hausa coco," and last but definitely not the least, "the pepper to my boiled egg."(iykyk) Not a single lie there, and I am grateful that I have people in my life who bring me so much joy and happiness.

I realized what I truly wanted to share when in conversation with one of my best friends - Steve French - this morning. A conversation that encapsulated everything I had been feeling and thinking about all week - Time. From Virgil's death, to my sister's great achievements, to moments of laughter with my brother and many conversations with friends, I have been thinking deeply about the Time I've spent and the time I have and what I want to do with it. There was a part of the conversation where I said something along the lines of "what would people think?" and Steve's answer woke me up: "I don't have the time to be thinking about how you [others] feel - I don't have time." Period.

I know I say this a lot but many times I need a reminder:

Do what makes you happy.

Do what makes you feel most alive.

It may look a certain way to others but we're all out here experimenting with the resources, talents and gifts God has given us.

Experiment freely with gratitude!

So start that blog/vlog (again), move to that country, save that money and stop trying to please people you don't even like, dance to the music in the grocery store (its a bop chale), make time for your mind body and soul, be patient with yourself, but most importantly do you, for you.

Hopefully next week's post will be more geared towards clothing/styling.

Have a grace filled Week my loves.

Love Always,

Abs x

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Tryphena Yeboah
Tryphena Yeboah
05 de dez. de 2021


This is my first time on your blog and I don't know why it took me so long! Thanks for sharing these words with us. For someone who's constantly looking over my shoulder afraid of what would be said, or what expectations are hovering over my life, this was definitely a timely reminder: to be true to my self and my calling, without succumbing to outward pressures. Also, I dance to music in grocery stores ALL THE TIME! Miss you dear friend, and so proud of you! Cheers to Elise for her recognition!!!🎉🎉🎉

24 de dez. de 2021
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I'm so happy this piece resonated with you and I pray that even when life is life-ing you choose to remain true to yourself. I love and miss you sis!

Looking forward to a reunion with a grocery store dance sesh soon.

Abs x

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